7 Holiday Budgeting Tips for Couples<br />

7 Holiday Budgeting Tips for Couples

Cyber Monday, Black Friday and the Christmas countdown are all around the corner. Start 2014 prosperously by following these 7 tips

7 Holiday Budgeting Tips for Couples<br />

Couples who budget together stay together

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The holidays are fast approaching, and even if you know how to stick to a budget, the same thing may not be true of your spouse or partner. All couples face money challenges from time to time. But the extra spending that often occurs during the holiday season can put added financial pressures on a relationship.

The good news is that even if you and your significant other have totally different spending habits, you can learn to compromise, reduce financial conflict and take some other steps to ensure your financial harmony. Here are seven tips on how to manage your holiday budget—especially when your mate loves to spend money or doesn’t view personal finances the way you do.

1. Accept each other’s money personalities

To minimize spending disagreements, start by acknowledging and accepting your honey’s money personality.

Your mate may be a compulsive shopper who wants to play Santa and buy gifts for virtually all of your friends and family. Or he or she may tend to be Scrooge-like, and bristle at the thought of spending more than $25 or any one gift.

Whatever the case, this is likely an intrinsic part of who they are. So don’t start from the position that you need to “change” the other person.

Over time, some of their more excessive behavior may change—especially if you are a positive influence and handle money conversations sensitively without being accusatory.

However, when you don’t agree with your partner’s spending choices or fiscal habits, understand that you simply don’t have the same perspective about money, and you probably never will.

2. Create a realistic budget together

Don’t allow one person to shoulder the sole responsibility of creating a holiday budget or managing your joint accounts and holiday purchases. That’s asking for trouble when two individuals have completely different views about money and different financial practices.

Instead, set aside time to review finances together and create a realistic holiday budget based on your spending habits and your mate’s, as well as how much cash flow you both have. The idea is to establish a reasonable spending plan (i.e., budget) that both of you can live with and agree to stick with during the holidays.

Even though it may be tough to have “the talk” about money and holiday spending, keep in mind that couples that can work through thorny financial issues instead of just avoiding money conversations are helping to keep their relationships intact.

If you and your significant other have totally different spending habits, you can learn to compromise, reduce financial conflict and take some other steps to ensure your financial harmony.

That’s because all that better financial communication can help you create more open dialogue about non-money issues as well. And good communication is a cornerstone of a healthy, thriving relationship.

3. Set spending limits

If your significant other just can’t stop spending or has a tendency to go on impulsive spending sprees when he or she hears jingle bells and holiday music, make sure he or she is aware of where things stand financially as the weeks go by.

You don’t want your mate to keep shopping every week, to go hog wild on Black Friday or Cyber Monday, and keep spending right up until Christmas Eve if it means he or she is blowing your agreed-upon budget or is being dishonest about how much he or she is spending.

Bringing up the issue without being confrontational can be tricky, but you both really do need to keep tabs on the overall household spending in November and December. Otherwise, you’ll look up later in the New Year and find that a whole slew of additional purchases were made that fell outside your budget.

4. Don’t feed a credit card habit

If you can’t pay off your balances in full, don’t fall into the trap of using credit cards for your holiday purchases—even if you’re earning cash back or any type of rewards.

The credit card habit can be very difficult to break when someone in the family enjoys shopping with credit for holiday toys, decorations, clothes or other items. Take steps to pay for as much as possible with cash, and encourage your significant other to bring cash—not just credit cards—on each shopping trip.

5. Do more holiday shopping together, including comparison-shopping

When you need to tighten up your holiday budget and your significant other still insists on additional shopping, plan on shopping together. Take the time to create a specific gift list so that random purchases don’t wind up in your shopping basket.

Also, be sure to set aside time before going on a shopping trip to research items, compare prices, and make the best decisions about what gifts you’ll buy, where, and at what price.

Sometimes just having someone along to shop with can be enough to ward off a mindless shopping spree, and may help your significant other make more rational purchasing decisions.

A word of caution though: don’t become Scrooge or the shopping police, constantly saying “no” or acting like you’re going to “fine” your mate for every shopping “violation.” If you become nothing but a holiday “killjoy,” your mate

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