Every love story gone wrong has three sides to it: his side, her side and the truth. But what happens when one side of the story is silenced by someone's wealth? Siovaugh Wade, former wife of Dwyane Wade answers that very question, as she shares her struggles to repair an image she feels was destroyed by the NBA superstar's money, power and fame. From losing her kids, to losing her own sanity, Siovhaugn Wade is an open book about the trauma she and her two sons have experienced. We may never know the truth, but the following is her account of her life pre and post-divorce and her desire to move on.
EBONY: Why have you decided to share your story?
Siohvaughn Wade: Well, one of the reasons I wanted to tell my story was because I have overcome the fear of speaking the truth about what has been happening to myself and to my children. I can also see how many other women and children have gone through what Zion and Zaire have gone through. I have an understanding that there is a purpose in this, and I believe that what we’ve been through is already helping a lot of people. I’m also speaking out for the other people who have suffered the same tribulations we have.
EBONY: Can you elaborate on what you and your children have actually gone through?
SW: A lot has happened, but one of the things is abandonment and the pain that comes with that. Both my children and myself suffered from that. When Mr. Wade left, for over three months, he didn’t have any contact at all with Zion, our youngest son. By the time Mr. Wade came back around and saw him again, Zion didn’t recognize his own father. I was trying to be the glue to hold the pieces together, at least for the sake of the children, not so much for the marriage. But their relationship with their dad was really, really tough.
EBONY: How old was Zion when he left?
SW: Zion was a few months old when Mr. Wade decided to do that.
EBONY: How is your relationship with your children now? How are they coping with the separation?
SW: It’s difficult even getting a phone call. There is always noise, where I can’t hear my children. I can’t get in contact with them for days at a time and I have no idea where they are. It’s been really, really difficult on them. Zion will cry, literally uncontrollably. To have my son say, “Mommy, I want to come home” or “Mom, why can’t I go to my green room (because his room is green at my house)?” Those questions like that are really, really difficult. To have my children crying out like "Mom, help us” or “Fix this”, and feeling like I can’t help them is so hard on me. I’m not able to give them the one thing that they’ve been asking for.
This was not a case about justice or what was righteous before court; this was clearly a case about fame and wealth.
Just a few days ago, I found out that Mr. Wade transferred our son, Zaire, to a different school. I called the old school to get the calendar for the year and asked to speak with his teacher and they said, “Mrs. Wade we’re so sorry to have to inform you, but Mr. Wade took your son out of this school.” And that’s how I found out. So he [Dwayne Wade] basically shut me out.
EBONY: Can you reiterate the court’s decision regarding your visitation rights for your sons?
SW: The judge...made the decision March 11, 2011. Before the decision was announced in court, the children went on a visitation with their dad, a normal weekend. I kissed them goodbye and promised them I was going to see them the following Sunday. My youngest son Zion happened to say, “My dad and my aunt are going to take us away to Florida for a long time”. As we were hugging, I was explaining to him that he’d be back Sunday. It did not register with me at that point, what happened. Now, I’ve realized that Mr. Wade had to have known about the custody decision before anyone else did. The children were discussing how difficult it was going to be [being away from me] and I didn’t even know they were going to be taken away from me.
Following that weekend, the judge gives the decision to my attorneys and myself, and that’s when I found out. I don’t think things like that normally happen. I don’t believe that the construction worker, for instance, or the UPS worker would be able to know a verdict prior to it being released. But Mr. Wade is the million-dollar man in court, and he has the heads up. It really has been very, very, difficult injustices we’ve seen.
EBONY: So what are your calls and visitations like now?
SW: I often times find [the children] with different