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Oprahâs Latest Reality Show Stars âSix Little McGheesâ
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to find out what’s the real reason behind the anger and kind of deal with that and just stay positive.

EBONY: Is that how you’ve both managed to maintain your marriage and your family life, despite these heart-breaking setbacks, remaining positive?

MM: I think, overall, love. We’ve been married now for 13 years and we were married 10 years without children and we were together in our twenties and things like that. Owning our own company and having a family, this is something we always dreamed of having and now we do!

RM: Dreams do come true!

MM: With the kids and juggling everything, like he said, it’s a sacrifice. It’s a huge sacrifice. There are plenty of rough days, which you’ll see on the show. But, you know what? They will grow up and when they grow up they’re going to have duties and responsibilities and hopefully I will have much less to do! I But, I love my family and this is something I’ve always wanted. I always dreamed of this and it was definitely something I want to do so it’s not hard to do. I love watching my family and our business grow and our love is established.

RM: I look back over my life I say man we came so far. I am blessed. Growing up without a father and my mother having her issues, I know I want to be there for my children. I can be their mentor. I think that’s the greatest thing a man can do is being there for their children. Support your wife by being there for her and having your kids see that.

EBONY: So in a way, Ro, would you say that having these children and this healthy family is healing for you when it comes to your own childhood pain and disappointments?

RM: Absolutely it is healing. Every day it’s like, “Man, I’ve got children and I’m playing with them. I just always have this feeling like I’m doing what I’m supposed to do. You get that feeling as a father. Their smile is just everything.  I can’t even explain it. When you walk through the door and they say, “Daddy’s here!” and they run up and hug your leg, like, “Man, my children love me.” And that’s the kind of love I have for my father even though he wasn’t there. Children still love us. And I just love being in their presence.

MM: Yes, instead of us just being bitter or angry about our past, because it wasn’t always perfect, what we choose to do is make a decision. Ro and I, we always talk about what we can do differently than what we saw growing up and how we didn’t want that to happen to our kids. So with all that happened, we just release it. We didn’t have it the best and I think that’s what keeps us together, because we know what we want.

EBONY: Were there in influences in your life that helped you to formulate this positive attitude and to make conscious decisions to be better than what you saw growing up?

RM: Church! We were going to church together on a regular basis and part of that is soul-searching, trying to find out who we are and trying to find out what roles to play. How should I be a man and how should I be a woman. They really taught us to pray and when you pray, pray fervently.

EBONY: Did you watch the reality show Jon and Kate Plus Eight at all, and does the impact that reality shows can have on families concern you at all when making your own show?

MM: I didn’t watch it at all, though I probably should look into it. But no, I’m not concerned. I think each marriage is different of course. We have to make a conscious decision to be together each day. I don’t think anyone [television cameras, etc.] has that much power over my marriage. We have a pretty good relationship. It’s not always perfect, but we don’t let anything break us up. You make your marriage what it is and we choose to make ours what it is today.

RM: We’re married, we’re one, and to keep that going, I just get rid of all the gossip and negativity that drains your energy, even on television. Instead, I go read a book or I watch [OWN TV show]Master Class, things that are positive. We know people who got divorced and we didn’t and I am pretty confident that we want to do this thing called marriage. There are struggles we go through every day and so we try to focus on mastering those issues and showing other people that no matter what you’re going through, you can make it.

‘Six Little McGhees’ Premieres Saturday, December 15th at 10