[INTERVIEW] Tia and Tamera on Marriage and Motherhood

[INTERVIEW] Tia and Tamera on Marriage and Motherhood

Tia Spills on ‘The Game’ and the Reality TV Twins Gush About the Loves of Their Lives

Brooke Obie

by Brooke Obie, October 17, 2012

[INTERVIEW] Tia and Tamera on Marriage and Motherhood

Tia & Tamera

Photo courtesy of Sisterly Love: Tia & Tamera TwitPics

you ladies and your husbands are completely in love with each other. It’s so refreshing to see that on television. Your love just radiates off of the screen. So how did you know Cory [Hardrict] was ‘the one,’ Tia?

TIA: Thank you! That’s so nice to hear. Well number one, he loves God. Everything that he does, he goes to God about it first. He’s a strong man of faith and prayer. I find that very important for me because I am the same way. This business is hard and I needed someone who would say “Tia, get on your knees and pray,” -- whether it’s business-wise or personal -- and that’s what I love about Cory. Cory is a warrior and that’s why we named our son Cree because Cree means ‘warrior.’  Cory lost his mother at a young age but he came out to L.A. all by himself to achieve his dream [of being an actor]. He just believes in himself and has a lot of confidence. Also, he’s such a nurturer.  He’s so caring and such a protector. He’s always catering to me and he spoils me. There just aren’t a lot of guys out there like that.

But when we first started dating, Cory asked permission to kiss me. That’s when I knew Cory was the one. He’s such a gentleman and really, really sweet. I am more in love with my husband now than I was when I first met him.

EBONY: Tamera, you say couples who want to stay together have to ‘remember why they love each other’; why do you love Adam?

TAMERA: Awww! I love Adam because he has a beautiful soul. This man, it hurts him not to care. He will give the shirt off of his back to a stranger – well, it’s easy to give to a stranger, but Adam will give the shirt off his back on a cold day to someone he doesn’t even like. He just believes in the moral code. He believes in values. He believes in family. He believes in the Golden rule. He is the most generous human being I have ever met. He’s constantly giving. And he doesn’t brag about it.

I have a best friend as a husband and he is my number one supporter. He’s a family man and he’s always giving back to God. That is what makes him a beautiful man. We’re not perfect by any means, but that makes us beautiful as well. We’re not afraid to say we’re not perfect. We have our disagreements, but that comes along with marriage. He inspires me to be a better person.

EBONY: Of course, your relationship as sisters is the one we’ve loved to watch grow over the years. Particularly with the stigma against mental health and therapy that is rampant in our community, it’s so refreshing to see the two of you in therapy working on maintaining a healthy relationship. Why was it important for you both to show your therapy sessions on the show?

TAMERA: Well we wanted to show people that, again, we’re not perfect. We’re allowing ourselves to feel vulnerable. We are learning from each other. I think the greatest thing about our show is how open we are. Everyone doesn’t want to show that side, the side that they’re struggling with, but we have to realize that we’re always struggling with something. I’ve never received as much of a response as I have after that therapy session aired. People said it helped to show how their sisters actually made them feel too and helped them communicate better. So the response is really positive. The more you allow yourself to be vulnerable the more people will be able to relate and learn from you, because we’re all human.

TIA: Therapy is so important. Different people have different perspectives on life. It’s important for you to learn how to respect those differences and therapy really helped with that. Tamera and I are not in therapy anymore but the impact that it’s had on us is always expect the best from your sister and I think that when somebody’s feelings are hurt, you automatically turn to the judging side. When you automatically assume the best, you won’t be as hurt, you’ll say “Maybe she’s going through something because I know my sister loves me.”

EBONY: Tia, you’ve been so diplomatic when talking about what happened with your role on the popular show, ‘The Game,’ and why you’re no longer a part of that show after 5 seasons of being its star.  What went down between you and the producers of the show?

TIA: ‘Tia and Tamera’ will touch on the topic, so I won’t give too much away because I’d like for people to tune in to see the whole situation play out. I think with everything,

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