If you find yourself ending a sentence with a dotcom or remixing a word or just flat out making one up to ridiculous, epic proportions, those zany Braxton sisters are likely to blame. (Like “f.a.c.a.,” which comes courtesy of Trina, but you’ll have to read down to get the definition of that word. And make sure the kids aren’t around when you read it.)
We’re now in the second part of Braxton Family Values season three, and they’ve giving us more reality realness—taking on divorces, new family additions, and possible infidelity. EBONY.com checks in with Trina and Towanda Braxton, who give the scoop on what’s to come.
EBONY: How has the reality show changed the dynamics of who you guys are as sisters?
Trina Braxton: After going back and looking at the show, we’ve noticed in our sisterhood that we didn’t really have boundaries. We could just say whatever we want to say to each other, about each other, about each other’s vices and families. So we just had to have some adult boundaries. Now we are adult women, and we need to not be those same close little girls that we always were. We can still be close, but it has to change in an adult way.
Towanda Braxton: When we were younger, we were able to say whatever we wanted to say. But now when we have our own individual families, some things have to be taboo, hands off. We never really had that adult conversation with each other to say, “Hey, this is off limits, guys.” We just went for what we knew, what was comfortable.
EBONY: The disadvantage you guys have is, you’re on a reality show. So when two sisters are having a private conversation about another sister, ultimately they’re going to find out. Do you guys give each other heads up?
Towanda: We kind of always find out! Somehow, something slips up. Trina used to call Toni “Huffingtoni Post.” Being the oldest, she always felt she had a right to say stuff. She almost wanted to be the peacemaker. She thought she was being the peacemaker, but that wasn’t so! She would say, “I had a conversation with Trina, and Trina told me yada yada ya.” And we would look at her like, “Uh, Toni, you weren’t supposed to tell her that information.”
EBONY: When you guys first started doing the reality show, you gave us identifiers as to what your roles were in the family. Has that changed as the show’s evolved?
Our parents were ministers; we feel like this reality show is ministering to different relationships.
Towanda: I don’t think that it has changed, because that’s just who we are. We wanted everybody to know a little bit of our personalities in the beginning, because no one really knew all of our personalities other than Toni. But I would have to say Traci has emerged from being a “Wannabe.” I didn’t really like the name “Wannabe” anyway.
Trina: I definitely agree with what Towanda says, but only to a certain degree. There are certain times, depending on where we are with our sisterhood, that our rules will somewhat change. Towanda and I live in Georgia together. So if there’s something going on between Towanda and I, then another sister will have to be that peacemaker or the person that steps in. And Toni and Tamar live in California, so one of us might have to step in. In that respect, the rules might tend to change.
EBONY: You ladies are entering a point in your celebrity where you don’t want to give everything away, as evidenced by the first few episodes this season. But yet you live in front of reality TV cameras. How do you balance?
Trina: It really is difficult to live in that grass hut. However, if we say we’re going to have a reality show and we’re going to be real, we’re going to be real. Now mind you, there are some things that happen between a husband and wife that everybody just doesn’t need to know. You don’t need to know how many times, and when you don’t, and when you do, and all of that. It’s personal. But when I see that something is really affecting my children, it’s a hold. But people can only use what you allow.
EBONY: Is there anything that’s completely off limits?
Towanda: Yeah. My kids are off limits. When you try to portray them in a negative way, that’s off limits. Or my nieces and nephews, my nephews or niece, that part of it is off limits. Because they’re innocent and we’re the only people to really protect them at this point. So that would be off limits for me.
EBONY: That said, what keeps you guys coming back?
Towanda: Because we’re helping other people. I have to admit, there are some times when you’re like, “Oh my gosh, I don’t feel like it today.” But then you