Real Life 'Basketball Wife' Audrey Griffin

Real Life 'Basketball Wife' Audrey Griffin

The author and mother of four offers EBONY parents advice on how to find balance

Real Life 'Basketball Wife' Audrey Griffin

Audrey Griffin

be about basketball and work and getting adjusted to this lifestyle of him working a lot more hours than we were accustomed to. He wasn’t sure about the career and where we were going to head after that. I think like anyone sometimes you just have to step back from that take a deep breath analyze it and then focus on what your strategy is going to be so that you can come up with ways to have balance and that’s where we were last summer. We had to refocus and come up with strategies and ways that we can continue to have family life and work life and balance it all with our kids and giving them what they need as well.

We had to get creative with spending time with one another. We had to get creative with his presence in the kids’ lives. We knew that his time was going to be limited at home but then we came up with ways whether I would come and meet him for lunch or come up when he would have a break. When the kids had things he wasn’t able to but maybe during a lunch break he can catch a basketball games or tennis match spending time not necessarily in the home but outside the home so we can have quality time together. He would do things with the kids and set time aside so he can I can maintain our connection as a husband and wife. Talked about that and just got creative with the time that we have. Not a set schedule just checking in. a lot of our stuff could be on the whim on how we keep up keep that family connection going. We made the conscious decision to always make the time.

EBONY: You were also the Vice President of the National Basketball Wives Association for some time. A lot of the impressions about basketball wives today are coming from reality television, so what it was it really like to be a leader in that organization and to work with those women?

AG: It was great. It was a great opportunity to share with those women and give and receive advice in a really safe place. I’m still a member. It’s a sisterhood, definitely, because there’s really no one who can understand where we’re coming from and what we go through. I am definitely happy to be a part of such a great group of women.

EBONY:  That’s a very different picture from the one painted on the reality show. Do you watch Basketball Wives or have an opinion of it?

AG: I’ve heard about Basketball Wives and I’ve seen a lot of the shows and I know most of the women on there. My only opinion about it is that people have to remember it’s TV.  I can’t say that it’s a great depiction of us or it’s a depiction of the women I know or deal with on a regular basis at all. I don’t think it’s a great depiction of what women stand for, but it’s a show. It’s for entertainment. I think it’s a very short glimpse even into those women’s lives.

I think that all I can do is to continue to try and be positive and genuine and continue to do what’s right for me and my family.

EBONY: Would you ever be interested in doing reality television?

AG: I mean I would love to. I’m not opposed to doing reality TV. I have been approached about doing a few things that were in the works and shopping different shows for moms and I’m not opposed to that. I think it would be great to have a positive image and whether it’s the lifestyle of the busy mom. I think women really need to see that on TV, all of the things that women do behind the scenes for their families and their spouses. There is definitely a void for that. It’s definitely missing.  

My goal is to just continue to help moms to be inspired and offer them messages of hope and encouragement, knowing everything isn’t perfect, but it’s all in His perfect will. I just want to continue to provide tips and solutions for women so they can know you can live an amazing, balanced life.  

The paperback edition of “The Day I Took Off My Cape” will be out next month. Follow Audrey’s blog RemoveYourCape.com for the latest details and be on the lookout for her column on EBONY.com.

Brooke Obie writes the award-winning blog DistrictDiva.com. Follow her on Twitter @DCDistrictDiva.

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