the first day we hung out. I’m attracted and amazed by his commitment to his work, identity and lifestyle,” says Bee. “I live my life through the lens of photography. It’s not just a career but a calling in my life, so I was worried Bee couldn’t understand that,” clarifies Rog, who’s as equally impressed by Bee’s technique. (“She pushes me to be excellent in my work,” he says.)
Rog never experienced love like he knew it with Bee, and after a year of dating, on February 24, 2012 (yes, a year to the day of their first date), Rog proposed. That day, they went to the movies and walked down to the Apple Store in Soho, where they met for their date a year prior.
“I sent Bee a message on Tumblr right before we got to the store that said, ‘I saw you for the first time last year, but now I know I want to spend the rest of my life with you.’ ” “As I’m reading the words on my phone, I look and I see him down on one knee! I just froze. It was surreal and so lovely,” says Bee.
Thirty-year-old Bee and 28-year-old Rog were the first couple from their circle of friends to get married. “It never felt like we were too young. It felt so natural, like everything else in our relationship,” says Bee. There was a time when she thought marriage wouldn’t become a reality until much later in life. “I never met someone I thought I would marry, so I thought it would happen in my 40s. I figured I would focus on work, and then we met.”
The big day was an intimate affair shared with family and close friends at Randall’s Island Park in New York, and the reception was held at their loft in the Bronx. “Marriage is an ultimate measure of selflessness,” says Rog, who credits his parents with teaching him the importance of being honest and committed to your partner. “The first year, we spent time adapting to one another, and now we are really living our vows.” They believe marriage has forced them to deal with their personal shortcomings in a mature manner and perfect their problem-solving tactics.
Bee will be sharing their newlywed journey in a new column for the Huffington Post. “It’s a constant growth experience,” she points out. “Marriage is beautiful. We are going to create more good together than either of us can do individually.”
The Coolest Black Family in America is an EBONY.com original series: an ongoing look at the intricacies, layers and compelling beauty of African-American family life. Of course, The Coolest Black Family is not one family but many. In fact, we’ve found that there are as many Coolest Black Families as there are versions of cool. Also consider: family doesn't always mean mother + father + kids. What defines family is connected hearts and supported souls. Ride with us weekly as we crisscross the country in search of kinfolk whose cool is so palpable and real, it comes second only to their love. Think your cool fam qualifies? Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org (with Coolest Black Family in the subject line)!
Alexandra Phanor-Faury is a Haitian-American writer living in Brooklyn, New York with a slight (OK, major) addiction to fashion and pop culture. When she's not up in the middle of the night filling her online shopping carts and catching up on style blogs, she's writing about fashion and entertainment for a number of websites and her blog, Fringueuse.