Husband and wife Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, authors of ‘Great Sex Made Simple: Tantric Tips to Deepen Intimacy & Heighten Pleasure,’ shared these ideas:
1. Talk about sex.
Some people love dirty talk in the bedroom, some don't. But most great lovers love sex and love to talk about it. People often think their partners should be able to please them without being given any instructions. If you know what you like and can communicate it, you'll be empowering your partner to be a better lover.
2. Display enthusiasm both in and out of bed.
In bed, there's nothing sexier than knowing your partner is really into you and whatever it is you're doing; out of bed, nothing is sexier than knowing you are desired.
3. Take it slow.
We're not saying there's anything wrong with a good quickie, but prolonged love-making often leads to more powerful orgasms. Slowing down helps you experience the journey more fully. When people are focused on and rushing toward orgasm, they're likely to be unaware of a partner's state and oblivious to their own.
4. Be attentive.
Great lovers have developed the skill of being simultaneously aware of their own states and their partners. Pay close attention to the quality of your touch and also nonverbal cues such as rapid breathing.
Read this and more love tips in the March 2013 issue of EBONY on newsstands now!