matter before taking things to the next level.
How Do You Like It, Baby?
Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable, right? Yes, there are serious questions to consider, but once you’ve reconciled those answers and everything is all good, you should now focus on having the most pleasurable sex you can have. One of the first things I ask a potential partner is whether or not kink/BDSM is an interest. Since it’s something I’m into, I want to know if my partner is open to exploring it with me. It doesn’t have to be that serious though.
A simple question—“Can you tell me three things you enjoy doing during sex?”—can get you started on the right foot. One of the best parts of sex is talking about it, and sexy conversation is as arousing as physical foreplay. Go ahead and send a few sexy texts asking what her favorite position is or if he’s into pulling your hair, especially if you just got your weave done. Sexual compatibility is key to having your best sex, so have fun with these questions and keep them sexy.
The thing to remember is that communication is a must before any sexual encounter. Communication insures that you’re having the safest, mutually satisfying sex possible with someone who shares your views and will handle whatever consequences may come. Who really wants to take unnecessary risks when your biggest concern should be who is going to sleep in the wet spot?
Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Follow her on Twitter at @FeministaJones.