Dear Sil Lai:<br />
'How Do I Learn to Love Again?'

Dear Sil Lai:
'How Do I Learn to Love Again?'

Getting over an ex is hard, especially when you want to get back together and they've moved on. Check out Sil Lai's advice for a heartbroken reader

Sil Lai Abrams

by Sil Lai Abrams, May 23, 2012

Dear Sil Lai:<br />
'How Do I Learn to Love Again?'

How Can I Love Again?

    1. what you tell yourself, there was a role you both played in the relationship not working out.  Learn from the mistakes you’ve made and forgive yourself for making them. 

    The saying “If you love someone set them free. If they don’t come back to you, they were never yours in the first place.” may sound sappy and trite, but it’s real nonetheless.  You’ve grown in the time since your last relationship.  Take the lessons you learned and make sure that when you get in your next one that you don’t place such an emphasis on your friends’ opinion of your man’s profession or bank account.  And if you do find them looking down their noses, it might be time for you to make some new friends.

    Sil Lai Abrams is’s Relationship Expert and the author of No More Drama: 9 Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough and a board member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Follow her on Twitter: @sil_lai and connect with her on Facebook. Want Sil Lai's advice? Email to have your love questions answered in a future column! 

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