Dear B. Scott,
I’m a divorcee who has had the absolute worst luck when it comes to finding a good man. I’ve tried it all — online dating, speed dating, blind dates…you name it.
Just when I thought I was out of luck, I met this wonderful man. He’s a little older, but oh so charming and polite He has a really great job and is financially stable….i know because I work with him. The only problem is that he’s married.
I feel so bad for eyeing a married man, but I can’t get him out of my head. We talk at work and have hung out a few times after we leave the office. The past few weeks we’ve gone out just us two for drinks and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel a connection. He even paid for our drinks.
I feel so bad, but I don’t want to miss out on a good man. What do I do?
Dear Love Muffin,
Let me just get right to it — that’s not a good man, that’s a married man. It doesn’t matter how ‘good’ or ‘charming’ he is, he’s (legally) committed to another woman and that’s something that any self-respecting woman would understand.
You have been a wife before, how would you feel if another woman was plotting on your husband?
Believe it or not, there are plenty of single, available men out here for you to choose from. Just because the man of your dreams isn’t coming along as fast as you would like does not give you the right to go after someone else’s.
Not to mention, these types of situations never work out in the end. As they say… you will lose him the same way you got him.
My advice to you is to leave it alone before you get yourself into a bad situation that you can’t get out of.
At the end of the day, it’s simply not worth it.
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