for all of the negative things she may see. If we can provide a bit of light in a sea of darkness and negativity, we're blessed to have the opportunity to do that.”
Though the national marriage equality campaign is far from over, Aisha says there are so many more issues facing the Black LGBT community, and has even written a report about it, called, “Jumping Beyond the Broom: Why the Black LGBT Community Needs More than Marriage Equality." She says:
“There are so many other issues that young people are having in school, that in this country you can get fired from your job for being gay or not even hired. Black men already have a hard time getting a job. Imagine being Black and gay or a transgendered woman, there are a lot of issues from a policy standpoint that we need to address.”
And Danielle and Aisha are hard at work addressing those needs. “We've made it our life's work to make sure that Black LGBT needs are at the forefront. As we're talking about the economy, we're talking about jobs, homelessness, health issues, we're talking in a way that is inclusive of the Black LGBT community which is, oftentimes, the most adversely affected by a lot of social ills.”
When the two are not in superwoman mode, they are simply best friends in love who have a mini-book club where they dissect and analyze the latest books (they’ve just finished Sheryl Sandberg’s “inspiring and so timely!" book, “Lean In”). They run marathons together, watch Super Soul Sunday and “share our hopes and our dreams, our setbacks and disappointments with each other.”
It’s in those disappointments that Danielle and Aisha’s relationship has grown the most. “We hold each other up to such high standards and there are times when you don’t feel like you’re meeting that and you don’t want to let your family down and you don’t want to let yourself down,” Danielle says. “It’s at those points that you really need a partner who gets you.”
It’s that mutual encouragement and deep understanding that sustains them, 9.5 years later. “Everything in our lives has been like a natural progression from the first conversation that we ever had,” Aisha says. We’re just about continuing that momentum.”
Brooke Obie is a Contributing Editor of EBONY.com and writes the award-winning blog DistrictDiva.com. Follow her on Twitter @BrookeObie.