Ciara Defends Telling Women to ‘Level Up’ in Love: Says She Was At Her ‘Lowest Moment’

Singer took to social media to respond to critics of her love and marriage advice

by Shantell E. Jamison, January 22, 2018


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Singer and entertainer Ciara took an L on social media on Sunday after instructing women to “level up” if they wish to get married.

The 32-year-old singer posted a clip from a Jan. 20 sermon by John Gray, along with the quote, “Too many women want to be married but you’re walking in the spirit of ‘girlfriend.'”

“#LevelUp. Don’t Settle,” she captioned the post, sharing the same clip and hashtag on Twitter.

Addressing his “single sisters,” Gray quotes the scripture saying, “‘He that finds a wife finds a good thing.’ It didn’t say, ‘He that finds a girl that he’s attracted to, who he then begins to date, who he then calls his girlfriend, who he then buys a ring, proposes to and makes her his fiancée, who he then marries later who becomes his wife.’”

#LevelUp. Don’t Settle.

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“You’re not a wife when I marry you, you’re a wife when I find you,” Gray added, “But a wife is not the presence of a ring, it’s the presence of your character.”


Needless to say Ciara’s bit of advice didn’t go over well with fans, who took to social media to criticize her.

“Ciara’s playing a dangerous game,” one tweeted. “You should never, no matter how perfect your relationship/marriage appears to be, sit on a throne and tell people why they’re not romantically successful. You can be the queen of the ball today and have cake in your face tomorrow!”


Okay, according to US Weekly, the “Goodies” songstress has since responded to the criticism.

“I was one that girl wanting to be loved a certain way bit was making the wrong choices,” she posted on Instagram. “I found myself at my lowest moment. I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman. That’s when I realized married of not married… I needed to love myself. #LevelUp”



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