the duration of the dance.”
The One-Nighter: “He can be part of a celebratory bachelor party, an office outing impressing a client, etc. This guy is looking for flair. He wants the most spectacular experience. For these guys pole tricks, proper stage music and dancing worked for me. They only want to play. Sometimes a relationship guy gets tossed in this crowd and is good as a temporary Long-Term Customer. He’ll come back a few more times to see if anything comes of a feeling that seemed like it might’ve been mutual.”
The Abuser: “This is the man who is there to punish the dancer in some way: verbally, sexually. Often he’ll use money, drugs or the potential of money to ‘hold the girl hostage.’”
The Regular Guy: “Which they all think they are. The Regular Guy may or may not truly understand the dynamics of the game. He won’t spend money, but will buy a drink and hang out. He may get a dance occasionally, just for the fun or beauty of it.”
*All names changed. Obviously.
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Miles Marshall Lewis is the Harlem-based author of Scars of the Soul Are Why Kids Wear Bandages When They Don’t Have Bruises, There’s a Riot Goin’ On and Irrésistible. Lewis is a former editor at Vibe, XXL and BET.com. Follow MML on Twitter at @furthermucker, and visit his personal blog, Furthermucker.