had to laugh. That’s the cliché. Besides being genuinely more attracted to sisters, part of resisting Shiho was my aversion to living that cliché. Personally, my American race obsession is pretty much gone after living over in Paris for seven years since—I’m naturally older and wiser too. France has its own race issues, but over there, I matured past living up to the Super Blackman ideal of my teens and twenties. When it comes to dating and race, I say: “Do you”.
Miles Marshall Lewis is the Arts & Culture Editor of EBONY.com. He’s also the Harlem-based author of Scars of the Soul Are Why Kids Wear Bandages When They Don’t Have Bruises, There’s a Riot Goin’ On and Irrésistible. Follow MML on Twitter @furthermucker, and visit his personal blog, Furthermucker.