Common Sensual:<br />
Sexuality and Shades of Gray

How gay are you?

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Who’s zoomin’ who?

My own mother is quick to say that everyone is gay, her own way of explaining the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale. Way back in 1948, the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction figured out that people don’t fit into neat, exclusive hetero- or homosexual categories, and came up with a sliding scale of one to six. I won’t name them even by their "Common Sensual" pseudonyms, but most of my exes I’ve mentioned in this space have fooled around with other women at least once without considering themselves bisexual at all. Frank Ocean and Blaise don’t have that option.

Question my metrosexual moments if you like. I get facials once a year. You might even bump into me sweating it out at a bathhouse. I do what I want, like anybody truly confident in his sexuality. The real question is, how gay are you?

Miles Marshall Lewis is the Harlem-based author of Scars of the Soul Are Why Kids Wear Bandages When They Don’t Have Bruises, There’s a Riot Goin’ On and Irrésistible. Lewis is a former editor at Vibe, XXL and BET.com. Follow MML on Twitter at @furthermucker, and visit his personal blog, Furthermucker.