[TALK LIKE SEX] Sex and the Sacred: How Religion Impacts Our Sexuality
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expressing yourself freely, you generally have to be around like-minded individuals. You can’t be a ‘freak’ all by yourself, ya know?”

There is freedom in feeling comfortable discussing one’s sexuality, preferences, kinks and tastes without the fear of being shamed and rejected. I believe there’s space to have a solid spiritual foundation and an open-minded approach to the expression of one’s sexuality. It isn’t simply black or white, and as spirituality varies by person, so does its impact on one’s sexual liberation.

It can be rather empowering for people to feel comfortable opening up about what they enjoy and prefer in a safe space with other people who can relate and won’t condemn them. Most religious texts discuss sex in positive ways, referring to it as a gift from God to be shared between people who care for each other. I’d like to see us move away from the restrictive limitations of the letter of the texts, which are (IMHO) severely outdated, and focus more on the spirit of the message: sex is pleasurable and we should enjoy having it!

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Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Follow her on Twitter at @FeministaJones.