How to Tell if a Person is Really Changed

How to Tell if a Person is Really Changed

Sil Lai Abrams says past mistakes can be forgiven...if the person who made them is committed to working on themselves

Sil Lai Abrams

by Sil Lai Abrams, July 25, 2012

How to Tell if a Person is Really Changed

Everyone has done something in the past that they don’t want held against them.

    • does the same thing.

    Unless a person can express these four things, it is practically guaranteed that they will do it again. Of course, we can’t ever be 100% certain about how a person will conduct themselves, but in my experience being able to communicate these points, along with consistently good choices, is a pretty good indicator that a person has learned and grown from their mistakes.

    A lot of people say that they’ve changed…that they are working on becoming better versions of themselves.   But personal development only happens when you actually put the time in to grow. So unless a person is actually doing something on a regular basis to improve themselves, they’re simply sharing with you who they someday HOPE to be.  Someone whose main goal is comfort will consistently put their comfort ahead of doing the right thing.  Which means that the next time they are lonely and you’re not around, they’ll be dialing up their ex. 

    The bottom line is instead of focusing on a person’s past mistakes, look deeper into who they really are at their core today.

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