[THE LOVERS ROCQUE] New Yearâs Resolutions for Marriage

New Year’s resolutions can be cheesy because most people (self included) forget what they’ve resolved to do once February rolls around. However, making lists of attainable goals with the intention to make them happen every day regardless of the time frame—until they get accomplished—is a better idea. But since we are in January and resolutions are popular this time of year, I’ve decided to reveal some things that I plan to work on going into my second year of marriage.

1. Focus on Anger Management

I’ve mentioned my hothead tendencies before but I’m going to be proactive about not getting frustrated, annoyed or angry so easily affected by other people and certain situations. According to Mr. Rocque, “the best Christmas gift” I gave him was making the declaration to be more Zen. Cheers to that.

2.  Be Happy

Last year was a doozy. I got married, laid off, relocated to a new city, traveled to three countries and lost my father. I was depressed off and on throughout a lot of that. I realized that I needed to seek professional help. I haven’t done that yet, but seeing a therapist is definitely on the agenda. I plan to go alone at first, but at some point, I also want Mr. Rocque to come along with me; not because we’re in crisis but because I think it will be good for us.

3. Take a Vacation

If it weren’t for me, Mr. Rocque the Workaholic would never take vacations. I’ve got my sight set on a visit to London. He likes the idea, but his pragmatic Capricorn brain keeps mentioning our budget and other monetary goals we have. This is great, but there has to be balance and that’s what I’m here for sooo… I’m going to say that at some point in 2013, we’ll make it to London and still stay in financial shape. Vacations and trips whenever possible should be necessities for every year.

4. Grow With My Husband

Life happens, and it’s always unpredictable, but I love the feelings that I’m experiencing in what people call “the newlywed phase.” We won’t be newlyweds forever, but I’m going to work toward keeping the passion going.

5. Keep Family First

I take my career goals seriously but family always comes first. I think I’ve been decent about finding that balance but there’s always room for improvement. I still have those moments where my head’s been buried in my laptop all day long and I didn’t even take the time to socialize with my husband. Still, as long as I’m cognizant of the fact that this needs more improvement, then I’m headed in the right direction. Baby steps.


Mr. and Mrs. Rocque are the couple formerly known as Anslem Samuel and Starrene Rhett, Chicago-based journalists who found love in between bylines. Follow the newlyweds’ musings of a marriage in progress here, on Twitter and via their joint blog.