Dear Sil Lai:<br />
'I Want to Date Online, But I'm Scared of the Crazies'
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“crazy” by taking things slow and making sure their words line up with reality.  Trust your gut and know that even if you do encounter someone who’s not on the up and up, you get to decide whether or not they stay in our life.     

No matter how old we become, we don’t have to be defined by our past relationships failures.  Every divorce or breakup contains an opportunity for us to become wiser and increase our ability to have better loving relationships.    The bottom line is that if you increase your self esteem, shift your attitude towards dating (no more one-hour complete psychological assessments), and go outside your social comfort zone you’ll increase the likelihood of finding the love that you desire. There are no guarantees that this will happen, of course, but at the very least you’ll feel better about yourself and have a more optimistic outlook towards love, which goes a long way towards attracting a partner.