5 Ways You’re Sabotaging Black Love

5 Ways You’re Sabotaging Black Love

by Shantell E. Jamison

“Isn’t it heartbreaking how easily you can dedicate your life to destroying yourself?” – Unknown It’s no secret that there’s strength in numbers. But... Read More

Extended Engagements Are TRULY None of Your Business

Extended Engagements Are TRULY None of Your Business

by Lincoln Anthony Blades

If you have any type of common sense, you should know good and well that there are certain questions you never ask another couple.... Read More

[AskShanTellem] My Man Is Looking A Mess and I’m Not Attracted to Him

[AskShanTellem] My Man Is Looking A Mess and I’m Not Attracted to Him

by Shantell E. Jamison

Dear ShanTellem, How do you tell your mate that you’re not attracted to them anymore? I don’t want to break up but he just... Read More

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Thigh-High Boots, Thongs and Eyeliner: Prince as a Feminist Icon

by Josie Pickens

Like many of The Purple One’s fans today, I woke up hoping yesterday was just a dream—that the world didn’t lose Prince, the musician... Read More

5 Steps Toward Forgiveness in Relationships

5 Steps Toward Forgiveness in Relationships

by Shantell E. Jamison

“Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive.” –C.S. Lewis Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do... Read More

‘Am I A Gold Digger?’ Woman Torn Between Provider and an Old Flame

‘Am I A Gold Digger?’ Woman Torn Between Provider and an Old Flame

by Shantell E. Jamison

Dear ShanTellem, I’ve been in a majority-committed relationship for five years. I am a stay-at-home mom, and the man that I am with takes... Read More

Check, Mate EBONY Magazine March 2016

Going Dutch: Should He Always Pay on a Date? Maybe Not

by Alisha Tillery

Let’s split the bill.” How often have you heard this on a date after the check arrived? If the answer is seldom, don’t be... Read More

The Better Sex Diet: How to Eat Your Way to A Strong Libido

The Better Sex Diet: How to Eat Your Way to A Strong Libido

by Glamazon Tyomi

“Tyomi, How can I boost my sex drive naturally?” It’s a question I receive often from eager women and men looking to enhance their... Read More

How the ‘Strong Black Woman’ Kills Black Love

How the ‘Strong Black Woman’ Kills Black Love

by Shantell E. Jamison

The “strong Black woman” or “angry Black woman” stereotype has stood the test of time. Several depictions of stubborn, argumentative, bitter Black women continue... Read More

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An HIV Test Cost Me My Relationship

by Shantell E. Jamison

Dear Shantellem, I’ve never been so confused in my life. My girlfriend broke up with me for getting tested for HIV. She is allergic... Read More