We hear it all of the time: In order to find love, we have to realize what we deserve! Many tell single women and men that not only should they know what and whom they desire and deserve, but they should to take action to get just what they want.

Although one must be intentional and deliberate regarding seeking out and eventually attaining his or her heart’s desires, many are left lost and often confused and hopeless when it comes to the game of love.

With the start of a new year, many people are looking forward to starting fresh and attracting an ideal mate. And certified life coach and author of the book Dear Black Man, We Love You: 5 Things You Need to Know and Do To Win‘s Dee C. Marshall has created a special prayer just for single women to assist them in tending to their hearts and love lives.

Here is that prayer, courtesy of Dee C. Marshall via Essence:

Dear God,

I come to you in this season with a prayer for the love of my life.  Your word says we are to come boldly before the throne (Hebrews 4:16) so I come bold and unashamed.

Lord my heart is to be in a healthy, loving, committed relationship with the man You have for me.  I want Your best for me and often struggle with waiting.  God, I refuse to allow time to discourage me this holiday.  I am encouraged, and I choose to believe You are preparing me to receive him now.  So I shift my mind, my heart and my attitude to a place of gratitude and hope for what is to come.

Marshall also says that in 2018, having a clear mind should be of top priority.

“To position yourself for the man you’ve been waiting for stay positive, speak as if he’s already here and get ready,” she advises. “Jealousy and envy will block your blessing. Pray for the relationship you admire from afar.”