Signs You Are NOT Ready for a Relationship

Signs You Are NOT Ready for a Relationship

'Dating While Broken' can keep you single---or suffering---in the future, so why not wait until the time is right to look for love?

Sil Lai Abrams

by Sil Lai Abrams, April 03, 2012

Signs You Are NOT Ready for a Relationship

If you're dealing with heartbreak, why rush into another (bad) romance? 

space of wholeness that we have a real chance of creating lasting, loving and healthy intimate relationships.  Instead of pursuing a new relationship (or multiple ones, for that matter) when going through a difficult time, why not give yourself the chance to simply be?  If new friends are made during this time, by all means enjoy them--platonically.  The most enduring and loving intimate relationships often begin as friendships.  If they can love you as a friend while you’re going through difficult times, you’ve got at the very least the foundation of what could eventually become a healthy intimate relationship - once the dust settles.

Sil Lai Abrams is EBONY.com’s Relationship Expert and the author of No More Drama: 9 Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough and a board member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Follow her on Twitter: @sil_lai and connect with her on Facebook. Want Sil Lai's advice? Email SilLai@ebony.com to have your love questions answered in a future column! 

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