OUT OF ORDER:
Signs You Are NOT Ready for a Relationship

If you're dealing with heartbreak, why rush into another (bad) romance? 

space of wholeness that we have a real chance of creating lasting, loving and healthy intimate relationships.  Instead of pursuing a new relationship (or multiple ones, for that matter) when going through a difficult time, why not give yourself the chance to simply be?  If new friends are made during this time, by all means enjoy them--platonically.  The most enduring and loving intimate relationships often begin as friendships.  If they can love you as a friend while you’re going through difficult times, you’ve got at the very least the foundation of what could eventually become a healthy intimate relationship - once the dust settles.

Sil Lai Abrams is EBONY.com’s Relationship Expert and the author of No More Drama: 9 Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough and a board member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Follow her on Twitter: @sil_lai and connect with her on Facebook. Want Sil Lai's advice? Email SilLai@ebony.com to have your love questions answered in a future column!