Is a Safe Sex Tape Possible?

Is a Safe Sex Tape Possible?

Ray J, Eve, Jennifer Lopez... the list goes on. But is there a way for non-celebs to join in the fun?

Feminista Jones

by Feminista Jones, August 13, 2013

Is a Safe Sex Tape Possible?

How not to end up like Kim Kardashian.

you both during the act.

Protect Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself

Making the tape can be a fun and exciting bonding experience, but you can’t forget to protect the bond. Is this someone you trust with your most intimate secrets? Is this someone you trust won’t leak it to seek revenge if you split? Will this person try to use it against you in court or professionally? Consider these and other questions before even making such a video. If you feel secure, but want extra protection in case someone else uses your camera or computers/phones, I recommend uploading the video to a private account online and then deleting the original files. That way, you both have access to watching it whenever you want without worrying about a coworker, friend, or heaven forbid, your child finding it.

If you keep the file, please encrypt it. There are a few options like TrueCrypt or IntiMate, an app to encrypt videos made on smartphones. If you’re tech-savvy, you can encrypt it yourself and make sure only to the two of you know the password. I also recommend you both agree to get rid of all evidence of the videos if you do split, just to be safe.

Sex tapes don’t have to be as scary as they might seem. Just pay special attention to with whom you make the take, what kind of content you have on it (please, nothing illegal or incriminating), and what steps you take to protect yourself in the end. Spice it up a bit and take a chance. A picture is worth 1,000 words, and video is worth countless memories.

Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Follow her on Twitter at @FeministaJones.


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