I don’t hide anything. I just don’t openly tell everyone unless asked.”
Alex lives in San Francisco, and admits that the environment is more accepting of people of all sexual orientations. “I’ll never get accustomed to people telling me that I’m lying to myself or that they just cannot believe that I’m bisexual,” he says, “but I’ve accepted that it’s for them to deal with, not me.”
Perhaps as we begin to see more progress in civil rights for the LGBT community, especially related to same sex marriage, we’ll see an increase in understanding and acceptance of bisexuality among men. Last year, President Barack Obama became the first president to openly support same sex marriage rights. It sparked controversy, but also started more conversations (especially within Black communities) about sexuality and acceptance. We’re not quite there yet, but while we might not agree with the ways in which others live their lives, we should respect their rights to be happy.
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Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Follow her on Twitter at @FeministaJones.