[TALK LIKE SEX] Kinky Knockinâ Boots
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on biting her way to let it all go. When Cee finds a willing partner, she bites as hard as she pleases, and enjoys the feeling of the flesh between her teeth (which satisfies her oral fixation).

Rough sex isn’t for everyone. For most, it’s an absolute turn off. I’d argue that while many are willing to try edgier things during sex to spice it up, there are strong limits beyond which most won’t venture. And you know what? That’s quite all right.

It’s been my experience that most who identify as enjoying “violent” sex see themselves existing somewhat on the fringe; we accept that our tastes aren’t “standard.” The key is to remember to be open and honest about your desires, play with people you can trust with your personal safety, and know your limits. It’s okay to say no, even when you’ve said yes in the past. Consent is vital, and when given, pleasure is almost always inevitable. Just remember to keep your answers to a simple “I’m just sore” when someone asks why you’re walking funny after a wild night!

Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Follow her on Twitter at @FeministaJones.