have money is hard because you still have needs and women want to be romanced before they [have sex] with you.” He went on to say that some women were open to going out for free dates or coming over to hang out, and that worked best for him because being unemployed didn’t mean he stopped wanting to have sex.
Can you have an active dating and sex life while being unemployed or experiencing financial difficulty? The short answer: yes. You can be flexible and look for less costly options. Sites like GroupOn and Living Social offer discounts on all types of interesting activities. When the weather is warm, most major cities offer tons of free events like concerts in the park and street festivals. Creativity won’t cost you anything but a bit of time and energy put into the planning. And aside from the cost of condoms, sex shouldn’t be tapping your pockets either.
Whether you hook up with a reliable friend-with-benefits or you have a steady beau, you don’t have to let a tight situation keep you from releasing some of that stress. Sex can and does usually improve your mood. So if you’re feeling depressed about your job situation, a couple of strong orgasms might just be the trick to take your mind off of things for a while.
*All names changed to protect the guilty.
Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Follow her on Twitter at @FeministaJones.