The Pleasure Zone

Easy tips and tricks for the Best Sex of your life

Margena A. Christian

by Margena A. Christian, June 11, 2013


rich in antioxidants and calcium. According to Price, “Antioxidants are great for helping your body make collagen, which not only aids in joint flexibility but also keeps your skin and hair healthy and looking great.” In addition, “Collards contain folate, which helps to improve mood and decrease depression,” Price adds.


“These fun little fruits help
prevent brain [degeneration], high cholesterol and age-related heart conditions,” says Price. “High cholesterol makes it difficult for enough blood to flow through your arteries, and for the best sexual functioning, you need blood to flow through your tiny arteries quickly and efficiently.”

It’s Slippery When Wet

“If I have a party with 10 women, I would say 30 to 40 percent of sales are toys and 60 to 70 percent are lotions (enhancement creams and performance-enhancement products), bath and beauty products (shaving cream and moisturizer) and lubricants, ” says Daphne Martin, a senior director for Pure Romance, the world’s largest in-home party company specializing in relationship-enhancing products.

Age or infrequency in having sex are top reasons people believe a “how dry I am” situation might result during sex. Wrong! It has nothing to do with old age or how long it’s been since your last sexual encounter. Here are some things that can cause dryness at any age:


“A lot of women don’t realize that there are different medications [such as] anti-depressants, birth control and antihistamines that can affect your body’s ability to lubricate,” says Martin. “And no matter what age you are, if you’re on one of these medications, or even if you have some type of physical transition that’s messing with your body, it can impact your ability to lubricate.”


Without proper lubrication during vaginal penetration, “a woman could experience vaginal tearing, resulting in it burning when [she urinates],” says Martin. “Over time, she can develop scar tissue inside the vaginal canal, which makes sex painful.”

Anal sex

Some enjoy using the back door, but the anus doesn't produce the type of natural lubrication produced by the vagina.

Get Physical With Some SeXercise

It’s no secret that having sex can be quite a workout. Most people will work up a sweat. Did you know there’s something called SeXercise? The high-intensity interval aerobic workout is functional in that it will “condition your heart and strengthen your body for sexual activity,” says Venus Ramos, M.D. “SeXercise (developed by Ray Palomino) is exercising to improve your sex life and it can improve your cardiovascular health. It can even elevate your mood. You may disco-ver more confidence in your personal relationships, both emotionally and physically,” she adds.

Learn To Love Yourself— Literally

“Having a good relationship with yourself is good, because solo sex is the safest sex you’ll ever have,” says Henry about masturbation. “You probably won’t be cheating too much on yourself, and you won’t give yourself anything in terms of sexually transmitted infections. You can still have a very active sex life even if you’re not in a relationship with someone. There are people who have been having sex by themselves for years. [They]—male and female—are into the art of self-pleasure. There’s nothing wrong with that.”

“Sexual expression is good for general health, and that includes masturbation,” says Samuels. “Some think masturbation is sinful, it’s taboo or if you masturbate you [probably] can’t find a partner. It’s not about either. As Woody Allen once said about masturbation [in the film Annie Hall ], “It’s sex with someone I love.”

For men and women, masturbation will teach what is most stimulating to you. “This helps you to be able to talk to your partner about what you like and don’t like,” says  Henry.

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