[COLUMN] Common Sensual: When a Man Loves (and Loses) a Woman

[COLUMN] Common Sensual: When a Man Loves (and Loses) a Woman

Our hero reminisces on having loved and lost for the very first time

Miles Marshall Lewis

by Miles Marshall Lewis, November 09, 2012

[COLUMN] Common Sensual: When a Man Loves (and Loses) a Woman

we’re so often accused of being. Sometimes behavior is based in biology, but we’re all responsible for our actions. The resentment and disappointment that Angela felt towards me afterward was warranted and justified. But true to my revelation, for a long time I had little desire to be with anyone else, despite being fully well within my rights to do so.

We did speak and see each other occasionally, having forged such a strong friendship. I tried my best to accommodate her need for space. Aside from my obvious initial regret for being honest (not to mention doing what I did with Simone in the first place), I had none for having told her the truth. If any kind of reconciliation were to take place (it never did), I wanted things to be on a plane of complete honesty.

The whole experience lent a bittersweet twinge to one of those clichéd inspirational quotes you see up on Pinterest these days: If you love something, let it go. If it returns to you, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it was never meant to be.

Miles Marshall Lewis is the Arts & Culture Editor of EBONY.com. He’s also the Harlem-based author of Scars of the Soul Are Why Kids Wear Bandages When They Don’t Have Bruises, There’s a Riot Goin’ On and Irrésistible. Follow MML on Twitter at @furthermucker, and visit his personal blog, Furthermucker.

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