men who won’t make a commitment, it may be time to take a look at how you view men, relationships and yourself. There is a saying, “As it is above, so it is below. As it is within, so it is without.” Our thoughts largely shape our reality, and if you buy into the belief that men don’t want to commit, you’re not only perpetuating a false stereotype, but you’re also increasing the probability that you won’t ever get a commitment.
The bottom line is this: If you want a loving committed relationship, start by making a commitment to loving yourself first. And remember, a man doesn’t commit to a woman because of what she does. He commits to her because of who she is.
Sil Lai Abrams is EBONY.com’s Relationship Expert and the author of No More Drama: 9 Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough and a board member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Follow her on Twitter: @sil_lai and connect with her on Facebook. Want Sil Lai's advice? Email SilLai@ebony.com to have your love questions answered in a future column!