Yes, Ladies, There Are Good Men Out There...<br />
So What Kind of Women Do They Want?

Yes, Ladies, There Are Good Men Out There...
So What Kind of Women Do They Want?

Relationship expert Sil Lai Abrams says that there are universal qualities that men seek in women (and no, making your mama's mac-and-cheese isn't enough)

Sil Lai Abrams

by Sil Lai Abrams, June 06, 2012

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Yes, Ladies, There Are Good Men Out There...<br />
So What Kind of Women Do They Want?

Do you have a chance at having a healthy committed relationship?

men who won’t make a commitment, it may be time to take a look at how you view men, relationships and yourself.  There is a saying, “As it is above, so it is below. As it is within, so it is without.” Our thoughts largely shape our reality, and if you buy into the belief that men don’t want to commit, you’re not only perpetuating a false stereotype, but you’re also increasing the probability that you won’t ever get a commitment. 

The bottom line is this:  If you want a loving committed relationship, start by making a commitment to loving yourself first.  And remember, a man doesn’t commit to a woman because of what she does.  He commits to her because of who she is

Sil Lai Abrams is EBONY.com’s Relationship Expert and the author of No More Drama: 9 Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough and a board member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Follow her on Twitter: @sil_lai and connect with her on Facebook. Want Sil Lai's advice? Email SilLai@ebony.com to have your love questions answered in a future column!

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