I have been writing about murdered Black women and girls for as long as I’ve been writing on the web. After 22-year-old Rekia Boyd was killed in 2012 by an off-duty Chicago police officer, I asked, “Who’s rallying for murdered Black women?” In 2015, I wondered why the national media failed to cover former Oklahoma City Officer Daniel Holtzclaw, who was on trial (and later convicted) for sexually assaulting more than a dozen Black women while on duty. And after Lonnie D. Franklin Jr., a serial killer known as “the Grim Sleeper,” was convicted of killing nine Black women in Los Angeles over the course of two decades, I wrote about the invisibility of Black female crime victims.
Time and time again, I’ve said their names, told their stories and tried to hold up Black female victims who are oftentimes overshadowed by other cases. Black women suffer under the weight of both racism and sexism so we are often not blonde enough for the nightly news and not male enough for our community to rally around. But surely, all people would support sisters who are victims of violence if they just knew they existed, right?
After learning that the target in the tragic San Bernardino school shooting was a Black woman named Karen Smith, I took to Twitter to ask if we can have a real conversation about Black women who are victims on intimate partner violence.
So, when are we going to talk about all of the Black women who are killed by their partners?
— britni danielle (@BritniDWrites) April 11, 2017
Smith’s slaying weighed heavily on my mind, as did the recent killing of Dr. Sherilyn Gordon-Burroughs, a prominent transplant surgeon. Both women were productive members of their communities, and both were killed by their husbands, who also took their own lives.
A few weeks ago, Dr. Sherilyn Gordon-Burroughs, a transplant surgeon, was killed by her husband. pic.twitter.com/QyxsXbhMG9
— britni danielle (@BritniDWrites) April 11, 2017
Their deaths lead me to Google where I searched “murder suicide,” and what I found was startling. Within minutes, I’d uncovered nine other stories about Black women who had been killed in recent months, just as Smith and Gordon-Burroughs were slain. I compiled them into a list, which nearly two thousand people have shared on Twitter. And that’s when things got interesting.
As expected, many people were surprised that so many women had been killed by their partners in a murder suicide, while others shared facts about the dangers of intimate partner violence. According to the Centers for Disease Control, one of the leading causes of death for Black women ages 0-34 is homicide (it fluctuates from the second to forth cause depending on age range). And the Violence Policy Center (VPC) found that Black women “are disproportionately impacted by fatal domestic violence.” In fact, the VPC reported, “Black females were murdered by men at a rate of 2.19 per 100,000, more than twice the rate of 0.97 per 100,000 for White women murdered by men” in 2014.
After tweeting the stories of the women whose lives were cut short, some Twitter users shared stories of their loved ones who have also been killed by their partners.
— inTranslation (@MsEnglish1) April 11, 2017
@BritniDWrites my friend was killed in a murder suicide earlier this year. Her 9 year old daughter and newborn twins were in the house.
— Bad & Hoochie (@BadFatBlackGirl) April 11, 2017
I lost a cousin who was killed by her boyfriend 😢 https://t.co/FEluw4WlZc
— KuRhula Mushwana (@MissEdnaChrissy) April 11, 2017
A close family friend of mine was murdered by her husband in front of their 10 year old son. The discussion needs to be had! https://t.co/DL2nUtWeSK
— Cassolino (@cvss_) April 11, 2017
This saddens me.My aunt and cousin were murdered over 20 yrs ago after my cousin told police that her ex violated the restraining order. https://t.co/hhZiIw0oOx
— Alexandra Bolden (@AlexandraBold89) April 11, 2017
@BritniDWrites two women who were related to my cousin and their all of their kids were shoot and killed by one of their ex boyfriend’s.
— Moon Girl (@yonce_padthai) April 11, 2017
Several men spoke up about the need to protect women.
@ratchetpedagogy @Scosha12 @DaphneDoGood1 @TonyaPendleton @ReaganGomez @BritniDWrites I’m doing my best, I don’t want my little sister to be hurt because I didn’t teach her about how men can be. I have to do better.
— iso. (@okreset) April 11, 2017
I need this conversation right now https://t.co/mVuKwqBFwE
— Brandon (@afrokai) April 11, 2017
This thread is depressing and true. https://t.co/bEg6GCFtxK
— (((ChronThompson))) (@ChronsOfNon) April 11, 2017
Much needed thread. EVERYONE READ THIS, ESPECIALLY MEN. https://t.co/u1lS6M3M3y
— kambesyes (@kambesyes) April 11, 2017
This thread. Especially for the 'Why didn't she just leave?'-ers https://t.co/cnwtt2mjG3
— Kamau Nkosi (@Kamau_Nkosi) April 11, 2017
We teach Black men that violence is resilience and that Black women are property. The results are horrific. Thread on the results… https://t.co/kYy2FwALwZ
— Chance Calloway (@ChanceCalloway) April 11, 2017
A few blamed the victim for choosing the wrong partners.
Y’all love messing with them crazies fat boys won’t lay a finger on you https://t.co/zeY6tuCsEI
— Beans🤘🏿 (@LegendaryIan_) April 11, 2017
And most painfully, some Black men argued highlighting Black female murder victims somehow amounted to bashing ALL Black men.
smh another clown who hates men bro stop placing blame & look for a solution for the next generation otherwise they grow up bitter like you https://t.co/T6bY12Hk81
— L.A. France (@8LaFrance) April 11, 2017
why do you constantly compare yourself to white women ? is it competition for the white man? https://t.co/sUxbSTlP7W
— Uncle Hotep (@handymayhem) April 11, 2017
Another thing for black men & women to argue about..sure why not? https://t.co/PdPNiEbVaG
— . (@Flight_91) April 11, 2017
How you gon use a thread of dead black women to push your man hating agenda? Chill out! Who hurt you? @BritniDWrites
— Hotep Jesus (@VibeHi) April 11, 2017
Despite the negative responses I’ve received (and am still receiving), overall, most people–men and women, Black and non-Black–have been open to discussing the issue of intimate partner violence and its effect on women of color. As a Black woman who so often feels like we must advocate, support, and fight for ourselves, it’s nice to see others are concerned about keeping us safe.
Britni Danielle is EBONY’s Entertainment/Culture Director. Follow her on Twitter @BritniDWrites