Chad, Evelyn and Blaming the Victim

Chad Johnson and Evelyn Lozada.

famously bellowed in the director Spike Lee’s classic film, School Daze:

“WAKE UP!” 

Please wake up.

Sil Lai Abrams is EBONY.com’s Relationship Expert, author of No More Drama: 9 Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough and a board member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline.  You can follow her on Twitter: @sil_lai and connect with her on Facebook. Want her advice? Email SilLai@ebony.com to have your love questions answered in a future column!