âI Am a Brown Boiâ<br />

‘I Am a Brown Boi’

Activist B. Cole on how embracing her boihood changed her life and why Black people should openly challenge gender norms

B. Cole

by B. Cole, July 31, 2013

âI Am a Brown Boiâ<br />

The author B. Cole (right) and her wife Aisha

we as Black folks can give to each other what society takes away.

I tell the brown bois often that my deep and abiding connection, and responsibility, to Black men is not absolved because I married a woman. Our fates are bound together. We have been convinced by society that we can watch each other die and not be affected. These tactics have worked to keep us silo-ed for too long. I believe that we are the generation ready to set aside these barriers and build a powerful future. One in which all of our authentic selves can thrive.

*Masculine of Center (MoC) is a term that recognizes the breadth and depth of identity for lesbian/queer/ women who tilt toward the masculine side of the gender scale and includes a wide range of identities such as butch, stud, aggressive/AG, dom, macha, tomboi, trans-masculine etc.

Cole holds an MSc from the London School of Economics and has worked as a community facilitator, strategist, and consultant for the last ten years. Drawing on this experience, she launched the Brown Boi Project. A graduate of Mills College, a Rotary Ambassadorial Scholar, White House Harry S. Truman Scholar, and Black Male Achievement Echoing Green Fellow she has worked across the US and internationally on issues of leadership development. As a health activist and author, Cole edited Freeing Ourselves, the trans/LGB health guide; which is now being used to forward understanding of the incredible breadth of health needs for LGBT people of color. Follow her on Twitter at @bespokebutch

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