[THE SPIRITUAL LIFE] 'Inner Fitnessâ Coach Aims to Change the Way We Heal

Tina Lifford 

“In all your years of schooling—from Kindergarten to whatever level you reached—did you ever take one course that taught you to navigate the dramas, traumas, upsets, disappointments that come with life?” In an interesting turn of events, Inner Fitness Trainer, Tina Lifford asks the first question of the interview.  “Not in my formal education, no,” I respond, intrigued.  “Ninety-eight percent of the people I ask that question to respond the same way,” Tina says, “and that means, if we don’t walk through the steps that science is now identifying as necessary for us to effectively resolve unresolved [hurts], then we wind up carrying that stuff for years, if not decades, if not the rest of our entire lives.” Tina’s on a mission to change that.

Through her media company, Waking Up Fabulous, the licensed spiritual practitioner offers an empowering book, The Little Book of BIG LIES, as well as her Inner Fitness Project –personal development training specifically aimed at equipping people to deal with the inevitable hardships of life in a way that is spiritually healthy.  Though Tina has been a personal life coach for 15 years now, it wasn’t until she was emotionally knocked off her center nearly six years ago that she felt the unmovable urge to launch her company. 

“My older brother actually died of a drug overdose and he had been challenged with drugs his whole life,” Tina tells EBONY.com. “His drug addiction was a burden on my heart. I just didn’t understand why he met so many challenges and my life didn’t seem to have the kinds of challenges he had. Steve was an incredible heart but just wasn’t prepared to make it in this competitive world. As a sister, that burdened me. If you’ve ever lived with or been around a drug addict, it’s a very, very challenging life and I wanted to be free of the burden that I felt around that. There was this thing in me that wanted to be able to help people like my brother, help people with the kind of struggles I had, and moved me to a greater sense of myself.” Combining her two passions – acting and personal spiritual development—her divine assignment was revealed to her.

In addition to offering spiritual life training, the accomplished Hollywood actress and current co-star of NBC’s Parenthood, has also written, produced and starred in an interactive play called, “The Circle,” based on her experiences with the circle of women in her own support system, that has been performed in Chicago and most recently at The Matrix Theater in L.A.  that she says has been a “cathartic experience,” for both her and her audiences of “women and men, all ages, all colors, and ethnicities.”  She says, “When I started to get feedback from my audience, one woman said to me that the gift that ‘The circle” has given me is that all this time, I thought I was unhappy. I didn’t realize that I was carrying a bag full of other people’s stuff.’ There’s a moment in the play where we invite the audience to say “Carry your own damn bag!” as an answer to letting go of the old stuff that we’ve taken on, the old hurts [from other people]. I cannot tell you how gratifying it is [to hear people in the audience say that].”

Challenge has a spiritual purpose.

Though Tina says she’s been a “spiritual walker since she was in the second grade,” when she would consciously leave space beside her in her chair at school or on the sidewalk so that God would have room to be next to her, it wasn’t until three years before her brother died that she was able to get free from the burden she felt as a result of his struggle with drugs.  “I was blessed with a healing in my own heart where my brother is concerned and that healing allowed me to realize that God did not judge my brother. In God’s eyes, my brother was whole and complete and therefore all of the judgment and confusion that lived within me, I could give up and turn over to something greater and that allowed me to begin to want to create environments where other people could see into their hearts and address some of their unspoken discomfort and pain. I knew in our society in general, there’s really no collective space for that.” 

Though she coaches people on how to become spiritually in-tune, she is careful not to draw conclusions about what “the essence of God,” is.  She says, “Whatever I think I know, whatever conclusions I draw about life and God, I will be wrong, I will be short-sighted, it will be incomplete. When you’re talking about something as infinite as the love and life of something -- I am incapable of truly interpreting