On Saturday, R&B singer Tamar Braxton posted an old photo of herself from 1996 that she discovered at her parents’ home. Along with the image, she wrote a lengthy caption revealing she has long struggled with body dysmorphia, a mental illness involving an obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance, since the age of 11.
“Can you believe I thought I was FAT??!? (I’d sure like to be that size now lord),” she wrote under the picture. “It’s so funny how you see yourself then, and how it parallels to now. (confession) I STILL struggle with body dysmorphia to THIS DAY all because a record executive told me I was too fat at 11 to be more of a “commercial “ artist.. only to end up having BIG R&B hits TODAY!!! ”
The Grammy-nominated singer correlated the experience with her public familial issues, and how network executives treated their reality show, Braxton Family Values. “We STARTED having major OVER THE TOP family issues because some network wanted to compete with old [Love & Hip Hop] numbers, And felt that our family was [too] ‘perfect’ and unrelatable,” she said. Despite that belief, the Braxton family proved the naysayers wrong. The series is “the longest running Black family reality show” in history.
Through that comparison, the singer told her followers to be cautious of advice or what others say because “people will try to turn you into whatever they want you to be for their benefit.” She ended the message speaking on the importance of self-esteem and being your true self.
Read the message below.
There is nothing like going to your Parents house and finding old 1996 HORRIBLE pictures of yourself!! 😩🤣Can you believe I thought I was FAT??!?🤦🏽♀️(I’d sure like to be that size now lord🙏🏽) this was back in the day when I shot the “so many ways” video with my then skinner sisters @trinabraxton1 @itowandabraxton ❤️it’s so funny how you see yourself then,and how it parallels to now. (🙋🏽♀️ confession) I STILL struggle with body dysmorphia to THIS DAY all because a record executive told me I was too fat at 11 to be more of a “commercial “ artist.. only to end up having BIG R&B hits TODAY!!! ( which was fine with me cause thats how I saw myself THEN in the FIRST place)…The Same as thing goes for me and my sisters…. We STARTED having major OVER THE TOP family issues because some network wanted to compete with old love and hip hop numbers, And felt that our family was to “perfect” and un relatable 🙄 ( Thats another story)…But only to realize that our problems are JUST like everyone else’s.. AND this BLACK FAMILY IS FINE THE WAY WE ARE!!!! & ☝🏽 I must mention we must be like somebody’s family cause our “boring” family has the LONGEST running BLACK family reality show EVER in HISTORY 🤔….I say all that to say people will try to turn you into whatever they want you to be for their benefit! When are you going to be who YOU truly are for your OWN benefit? We put ourselves through hell to be however someone else see’s us..how about if you are going to work at something, WORK ON YOU FOR YOU and have the faith that GOD made you this way on purpose! Because really what other’s see is your greatness and want to TRICK you into thinking otherwise to USE you!! (See previous post) This is why having Esteem of YOURSELF is so important!! Because once you decide to choose YOU and what YOU like??….. maaaaaaaannn watch out!! Here you come!!! Do yourself a favor and STAY 👏🏽 on👏🏽 they👏🏽 NECK!!! #thatsall #haveablessedday🙏🏽