Dear B. Scott,
My best friend and I have been close for the last 8 years. Up until recently, we were inseparable. Over the last few months, she’s been on her grind trying to take her career to the next level and make things happen for herself and I’m proud of her — but I feel like she’s pulled completely away from our friendship. We don’t speak as much, she doesn’t always respond to my texts…and I get it, people have to live their lives. I just feel like I’m slowly falling out of hers.
I miss my best friend and I’m not sure how to go about it. Should I say something?
Dear Love Muffin,
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that friendships are just like any other type of relationship — they take consistent effort.
You never know which direction life will pull you in at any given moment. In her defense, she’s more than likely trying to navigate new challenges and obstacles the best way she knows how. Everyone has moments where they need to pull back from the outside world (and from some even their closest friends) to focus on themselves.
If you feel like you’re drifting away from your friend, then do something about it. Way too often we take things personally when in actuality it has next to nothing to do with us and everything to do with what the other person is going through. Take the initiative and give yourself the opportunity to express how you feel. Maybe, literally go knock on her door and check up on her. Don’t assume anything, because we all know what happens when we ass/u/me. As your best friend, she probably misses you too and notices the drift just the same.
Life is too short not to express how you feel to the people you love.
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