The school year is now in full swing, however your child is not. They were excited about the first day of school and now they dread going. Why? They don’t like their teacher. Unfortunately, kids will not always like their instructors (we don’t always like OUR bosses, do we?) However, it is important for them to learn that they will not always like people they have to interact with in life.
Here are three important steps to helping your child deal with a teacher who inspires little enthusiasm about school:
Find Out Why They Don’t Like Him/Her: This is crucial for elementary school kids, because it is important that they have a good rapport with teachers during these developmental years. as this is the foundation of their education. As they get older, the kids will learn to tolerate people teachers they do not care for, but when they are younger they should have little-to-no distractions while learning and growing at school. So why don’t they like this person? Your child may be surprised to discover, after talking with you, that their hostile feelings are unfounded, or that the issues they have with said teacher are smaller than they may have thought.
Talk With The Teacher: If your child presents solid justifications, then you should have a discussion with the teacher (without your child). Set up an appointment and talk about classroom guidelines and what is expected of your child. By showing the teacher you are concerned and will be involved with your child’s education process, the teacher will likely be encouraged to be more accommodating to your child’s needs.
Find Solutions: After getting all the information needed from the teacher—from going over the class rules, to understanding the homework process—you can now equip your child on what they need to do in order to accomplish the goals for a successful academic year. Make sure to point out the positives about the teacher and the importance of your child doing their part. When a child is clear on their expectations, it will be easier for them to do what is necessary and it will give no excuse for the teacher to have an issue with your child. One thing you should not do is remove the child immediately. They do not need to assume every time there is a bad situation, mommy or daddy will waive a magic wand to fix it. They will also learn a valuable life lesson, which is: you may have to work and deal with people that you do not necessarily like.
Other solutions to deal with this can include volunteering in the classroom and seeing if your child is the only one who feels this way or do other students feel this way about the teacher too. Don’t have time to volunteer? Reach out and ask other parents in the classroom what their children think of the teacher? Lastly, if you have done everything you could do and your child still gets the blues about his or her teacher, set up a private conference and bring awareness to the teacher about how your child is feeling. Sometimes this can help if the teacher didn’t know and it gives them an opportunity to make adjustments for any mistaken feelings. If things still don’t change, then and only then, you should inquire with the administration about changing your child’s class.
Audrey Griffin is a wife, mother of four, inspiring educator and parenting lifestyle consultant. Visit her website, check her out on Facebook and follow her on Twitter.