How to Tell if You’re With ‘The One’

Tips to determine if you are with the right person

Whenever someone has found someone who they deem worthy of commitment they use terms like, “The One” to describe him or her. Let me be the first to say that while someone can be very special, I don’t subscribe to terms like this because I feel that any person can be “The One” at any given time in one’s life.

But for the sake of this article, let’s use the phrase to convey that you are with the right person. Often, people can extend their representatives for a longer period of time. You know, they say and do all of the right things so much that you feel that they are “perfect” for you. But if their behaviors aren’t genuine, the facade of “perfection” will wear off in time.



Here’s how to tell if you are with the person who you are meant to be with.

1. They inspire you.

Their presence alone makes you want to be a better person. No, they’re not a motivational speaker or am constantly posting fifty eleven inspirational quotes on social media everyday, but the way that he or she lives his or her life, and most importantly their outlook, is enough to make you want to be your best self. If this is the case, you’re on track to being with “the one.”

2. You do everything and nothing at the same time.

There are some couples who have to have outside stimulation to get along. They need a TV on, to go out to eat or even another person in order to spend quality time together. You know that you’re with the right person when you are literally able to do everything and nothing together. Just being with them is good enough.

3. You prioritize good communication. 

It isn’t easy attempting to build a life with someone who has their own thoughts, ideas and ways of doing things. You will undoubtedly run into more than a few potholes along the way. Communication hiccups will happen. It’s how committed you are to understanding one another that will determine if you are meant to be in it for the long haul.

4. Your moral compass points in the same direction.

You know what’s worse than not seeing eye-to-eye? Not seeing eye-to-eye with someone that you’re involved with, about something that you really believe in. If your moral and foundation principles drastically differ from your mate’s, then you are in trouble. The right person shares similar viewpoints as you regarding fidelity, marriage, spirituality and children. In other words, you are equally yoked.

5. You have great chemistry.

I put this last because everyone seems to emphasis it, but honestly great chemistry is nothing without a solid connection (i.e. the four listed qualities above). All great chemistry is by itself is good sex and maybe a nice movie date. Just sayin.’





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