“Black women were created of brown sugar and warm honey, the sweetest thing to bless the earth. Be wary of anyone who tells you otherwise.” – Alexandra Elle
Despite knowing how prevalent ignorance is, I am still unbelievably baffled at some conversations that take place among social circles. It seems like opportunities to praise Black women are overlooked, while verbal thrashings are in abundance – especially when it comes to love, sex and relationships.
In an effort to remind some of how wonderful it is to date a Black woman, here are five reasons, and frankly, it’s a shame that I feel the need to craft a piece like this.
1) Black women are supportive.
A very good friend of mine is an excellent cook. She’s had a culinary degree for a few years now, but decided to hold off on pursuing a career in the field to raise her family and support her man’s professional career. Another friend of mine is one of the smartest people I know when it comes to information technology, but she, too, decided to hold off on jump starting her career in order for her husband to complete law school. Both women not only kept the house in order, but made sure their significant others were well-groomed, well-fed, had emotional power and any other support they needed to face the world. One of the most annoying myths out there is that Black women do not support their mates. We tirelessly wear several hats in sacrifice of those we love – just like women of other races. The only difference is that we go unappreciated, unacknowledged and unpraised. Black women do not lack a supportive bone, people do. Not caring about someone else is not limited to a certain ethnicity and gender. It is a personal choice not to give a damn.
2) Believe it or not, it really doesn’t take much to please us.
I was watching old Martin reruns with my homeboy one night when the episode where he finally proposed to Gina came on. Not the one where Brian McKnight showed up and serenaded Gina to tears. I’m referring to the first proposal that felt more like pulling teeth than a genuine act of forever love and commitment. Noticing how jacked up Martin was to Gina, I commented on it. “Yo, Martin is bogus as hell. I’m glad she didn’t accept his proposal. Whack city.” My boy replies, “See? The man is giving in and marrying her and that still isn’t enough. Black women are never satisfied.” SMH. What my friend and Martin both failed to realize is that Gina didn’t just want a proposal; she wanted a heartfelt, genuine symbol of the love she felt for Martin returned. She simply wanted to feel loved, nurtured, coveted and appreciated. For most people, those four feelings can go a long way…fat engagement ring or not.
3) Black women are highly desirable.
Kylie Jenner bought our lips. Kim Kardashian purchased our derrières. Britney Spears rocked our curly hair…before she shaved it off that is. Enough said.
4) Black women are selective.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but thots come in all forms. Men are thots, women are thots, Black men are thots, Black women are thots, white men and women are thots too. My point is this. The argument that Black women settle for anything is old, tired and just plain inaccurate. The notion that Black women are willing and ready to just sign up for the role of “side chick” is also false. Stop believing what you are being force fed in the media. Black women are royalty, and royalty does not eat scraps.
5) Black women are love.
Let’s take a trip down memory lane for a second. Good Times showed us ride or die through both Florida and Thelma. The Jeffersons showed us patience through both Weezy and Helen. Vivian kept Uncle Phil calm when Will did something cray on The Fresh Price of Bel-Air. It’s rare that people stick by your side these days. Black women are ride or die. Kanye rapped, “But you stay right girl/And when you get on he leave your ass for a White girl.”
As a Black woman I refuse to believe that I am anything less than desirable. Forget the fact that we are “statistically” doomed to be single, have the lowest marriage rates than any other ethnic group in America and supposedly have the worst luck at online dating.
My Black is beautiful and so is yours.