As I watched three black mothers from different parts of the country – Sybrina Fulton, mother of Trayvon Martin, Valerie Bell, mother of Sean Bell, and Lesley McSpadden, mother of Michael Brown –talk with CNN’s Don Lemon, consoling each other, and sharing positive memories of their sons who were gunned down as young boys, I reflected on the power of women in the world.
Tragically, these three Warrior Women have been thrust onto the world stage, with many people watching the emotions of their survival. They remind each of us how precious life is and the importance of reminding our sons, daughters, and other loved ones regularly how much we love them and care about them.
Throughout history, in our quest to find our places in this globalized world, we have used our warrior spirits to help move our world forward towards peace and safety for our children. On every continent, we have identified causes and people in which to place our energies to advance our communities We plan and strategize on success, thinking through a plan of action and various tactics and timetables.
We nurture. We are mothers, wives, daughters, sisters, aunties – and leaders in our communities. We own and/or operate businesses, while others provide support for businesses. We are educated, and we educate. We are leaders of today, and raising leaders of tomorrow. Mature women have a critical responsibility to share knowledge and experiences with younger women so they can take over where we leave off.
We must keep that legacy alive.
And we must also take some time to care for ourselves. One lesson I learned from a major car accident years ago, when I was incapacitated for more than a year, was that without good health, I was useless to myself and to everyone else. So I work to maintain a strong body, a strong mind, and a strong spirit – reconnecting every day to a higher power.
Here are a few tips for Warrior Women to move forward and make a difference in their local communities, and the world:
1. Give Yourself Permission – Give yourself permission to do, to be, to laugh, to cry, to mourn – and be everything you want and everything you can be. No one can tell you anything is impossible. Dig deep within your soul to find that strength to propel you forward, knowing — without doubt, worry or fear — that you can — and will survive! Link your will — to the will of the Almighty – and ‘IT WILL BE DONE’.
2. Support Other Women – Women have been socialized not to trust each other, to compete with each other, outdress each other—usually for the attention and validation of men. We must move forward to a point where we can appreciate each other – each others’ gifts each others’ assets– and link with each other to share and combine our talents, and pool our resources for the good of our families, our communities and ourselves.
As the saying goes, in order to create something we’ve never had — we may have to do something we’ve never done.
3. Think, Strategize, Organize – Having creative thoughts can make you feel good, but they don’t materialize to make a difference for your communities or the world unless you turn your thoughts into action. Encourage those in your community to become involved, vote (especially in local and mid-term elections), write letters to elected leaders, form watchdog groups. If you have a good idea – write it down. Think about it. Expand on it. Then organize a Plan of Action. Some tactics. A timeline. A budget. If you’re not sure how to structure such a plan, ask somebody to help you – but make it happen! You can.
Until next time — May the shadows of life keep you aware. The progress of love push you forward. And may the love of life, keep you living FEARLESSLY – as Powerful Warrior Women in this Globalized World!