“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Aquarius season (January 20-February 19) is upon us, and if someone under this sign has caught your attention, you absolutely have your hands full! This charming, analytical air sign is the cause-driven humanitarian of the zodiac. If you want a mate who fully accepts you for who you are, then dating an Aquarius is usually the move. Just be prepared for a bumpy ride.

If you’re one for laid back, quiet evenings at home most times, then an Aquarius is typically not for you. Not traditionally known for their conservatism and stability, the Aquarius man or woman is always down for a good time. Those born under this sign tend to be very social, so while a quiet evening indoors may work every once in awhile, it certainly cannot be a routine. Here are five ways to snag and keep your Aquarius crush.

1) Be confident and know who you are.

Second only to Sagittarius, Aquariuses love people who are sure of themselves. They value independence and that often means going against the grain. If you are at a black tie affair, chances are that one guy in the corner with the Chuck Taylor shoes and orange blazer on is an Aquarius. There is nothing that bores this sign more than conformity, so the more unique you are, the better chances of attracting their attention. Just don’t forget to be genuine.

2) Don’t take life too seriously. 

The Aquarian appears to be very free and lighthearted, but underneath his or her airy, jovial exterior is a lot of depth and intensity. Understanding balance when it comes to interacting with your Aquarian crush can serve you well. They do not need you adding to the complexities that float around in their minds already. They love to laugh and have fun, but pay attention to the moments when they get quiet. They are most likely in deep thought about their dreams, hopes and ambitions. Let them know that you’re there for them if need be, but grant them space. At times, Aquarians can be one of the more aloof signs of the zodiac, so being respectful of their space and giving them distance is critical.

3) Wine and dine them…the simple way. 

Aquarians are not traditional, but one thing they love is to be wined, dined and pampered. Those born under this sign like the finer things in life, and that doesn’t always mean spending lots of cash. If you cannot afford to take them to a five-star restaurant, figure out how you can bring the “fine dining” experience to your kitchen. You can ball on a budget as long as you don’t look “cheap” while doing so.

4) Be open.

Aquarians are pretty big on trust. Be open with them and they will certainly be open with you—if they’re interested. They thrive when clear lines of communication are present because in their minds it represents confidence and an unapologetic declaration of who you are.

5) Be up for adventure.

Someone born under this sign is a risk taker. They grab life by the reigns and face it head on. Like most signs, the Aquarius man or woman works best with a mate who has a similar outlook on existence. They truly believe in “trying anything once” and dealing with the aftermath later. This sign isn’t reckless, but they are in no sense, form or fashion afraid to live.

Aquarians are natural leaders and truly march to the beat of their own drum. Just make sure you are ready to create your own melody alongside one before you say, “I want you.”

Shantell E. Jamison is a digital editor for EBONY.com and JETMAG.com. Her book, “Drive Yourself in the Right Direction” is available on Amazon. Follow her on Facebook, Twitter @Shantell_em and Instagram @Shantell_em.