There are two uncomfortable realities about sexual assault in America.

  1. No matter who it happens to (male, female, teen, adult, elderly or a child) it’s far more likely to go unreported. And …
  2. The onus is almost always put on the victim to “not get raped.”

No one wants to be a victim. That’s why it’s human nature to try to look for fault in the victim. We want to believe we have control, that we can make ourselves save. This means we also want to believe that the difference between us and those who are assaulted is that they made some wrong decision and that if we simply go to the right places, wear the right clothes and conduct ourselves in the right manner somehow we will be rape-proof.

But the statistics don’t bear that out with one-in-six women being a victim of sexual assault at some point in her life time.

I don’t think any man is born a rapist. Unless he’s a sociopath without conscious (and sociopaths know no particular gender), that’s not possible. Rapists are made.