Body language can tell us a lot about a person even before they speak a word. Crossed arms during a conversation indicate being closed off or uninterested; darting eyes signal a fleeting mind (or lies). But did you know that certain sex positions can tell you how a man really feels about you? Well, it’s true.
Men are known for holding back their emotions and rarely revealing exactly how they feel about the women they choose to partner with, especially if the relationship is strictly sexual with no strings attached. But by paying attention to a man’s body language during sex, you can become a mighty mind reader—and either save yourself the embarrassment of getting too attached to a man that only wants in for the sex, or choose to become more intimate with a man who wants more but is too afraid to express his interest.
Take a look at these common sex positions and what they can reveal.
Woman on Top
“Woman on top” positions include traditional cowgirl, reverse cowgirl and sex in a chair or on a couch where the woman is on top. These positions allow a woman to be in full control of not only her own pleasure, but her partner’s pleasure as well. Men also get the opportunity to lay back and see what their lovers are working with.
Being in cowgirl (or reverse cowgirl) allows a woman’s clitoris to be stimulated along with penetration, so you have a better chance of stimulating the G-spot along with the clitoris in order to bring on a mind-blowing orgasm. A man who prefers for a woman to be on top and in control is a man who’s playful in bed and has your satisfaction in mind above everything else. This type of man isn’t all about the hit and run, but more concerned with making sure your sexual experience is as enjoyable, as he knows his will be. If cowgirl is his sex-position preference, this man is caring and passionate.
The many variations of doggystyle include the bulldog, the basset hound and backdoor planking. Doggystyle places the female partner in complete submission while the male partner has full control over the sexual situation. G-spot stimulation can be achieved as well as deep penetration.
A man that prefers any variations of doggystyle is the “take charge” kind of guy that wants you to feel cared for. However, he may be a bit reserved in completely showing you how he feels about you. So to avoid exposing himself emotionally, doggystyle is his position of choice because of the lack of eye contact available from behind.
Eye contact is one of the main factors in building intimacy, so if doggystyle is his go-to every time, this may be a man that doesn’t want to connect with you beyond the sexual experience. If you’re interested in a long-term romantic relationship, you may want to have a conversation with him outside of the bedroom about where his desires lie in your relationship dynamic.
Missionary include any position where each partner is positioned face to face, whether the female partner lies on her back with her legs in the air (V for victory) or if her legs are placed on her partner’s shoulders (the shoulder throw). Missionary positions create a level of intimacy because of the eye contact made possible from lying face to face.
Eye contact during sex allows you to connect with your partner and read his facial expressions while he enjoys his time connected with you in the physical. Men who default to missionary are usually loyal companions who do things by the book. They’re stable, tender and loving mates who will go the distance, and they aren’t afraid of letting you know how they feel. This type of man will make a stable and loyal romantic partner who invests heavily in intimacy and trust.
Side by Side
One of the most common side by side sex positions is “spooning,” and is considered to be one of the most intimate because of the close bodily contact it creates between both partners. A man who likes side-by-side sex tends to me more on the sensitive side and needs reassurance of your feelings for him, thus the reason he wants to be close to you.
The closeness of side-by-side sex also creates an intimacy that reassures you actually are into him. (You wouldn’t let someone you’re not into pull up to your bumper in that fashion, now would ya?) Type of guy is usually sweet and affectionate, a good sign for a woman who wants a man that can be gentle and in touch with his emotions.
So there you have it! Actions speak louder than words, and positioning during sex is no exception. Men may not wear their emotions on their sleeves, but with a little observation of their body language, you can make better decisions and take control of the dynamic of a relationship to ensure your ultimate happiness in whatever dynamic you choose.
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.glamerotica101.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.